Falling in love and remaining so is easy; our human loneliness is cause enough. But it's a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes the person one desires to be. - Anna Louise Strong
Ain't it amazing how poeple shape us, how much they have influence over us. We'll go the extra mile just to make others proud, to receive admiration from others and to keep it. There's nothing wrong with wanting those we care about to be happy but when this attempt becomes excessive to the point that you'll accept all kinds of negative behavior in a relationship, things take a turn for the worse. I've known two individuals who fit this senario perfectly. These two are some of the sweetest people in the world, would give their last to those they care about but at the same time, they've allowed the crappiest folks in the world to dictate who they should be. They've let them treat them awfully, belittle them in public, make promises that they know they'll never keep, yet somehow have managed to find permanent places in there hearts. These two settled for people that they've deemed the only ones for them and have devoted their lives to them. Which leads me to the #3 and #4 lessons that MUST be learned in relationships... Never live your life for someone before you find what makes you happy and don't settle.
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