It's a New Year!...

And what better way to begin the year, than with a few resolutions, personal commitments that I've made to help mold me into a more delightful person for 2006.

Did you know that the name comes from the fact that these commitments normally go into effect on New Year's Day and remain until the set goal has been achieved, although many resolutions go unachieved and are often broken fairly shortly after they are set. But not for me! I think that lots of people break their resolutions because they didn't set real, attainable goals in the first place. Mine are very realistic.

I have 3 New Year resolutions: 1) Eat sensibly & increase exercise; 2) Work on rebuilding worthwhile, healthy relationships with two people I readily wrote off in 2005; and 3) stop being bitter and cynical about love & relationships w/the opposite sex.

I think that these are healthy, attainable goals that I've set for 2006 and I intend to achieve each one of them.

Lessons that MUST be learned in Relationships...

2) Slower is better. Why are we in such a hurry when it comes to being in relationships? It's as if we're in some race to get to the good stuff-deep emotional connections, sexual gratification, long-term commitment-before either party is truly ready for these things. When we don't slow down and truly enjoy the now with a particular person, we tend to get caught up in a storm of emotions and uncomfortable situations like unrequited emotional attachment, infatuation, confusing love for lust, girlfriends/boyfriends that you didn't know about or planning where the relationship should go in a certain amount of time (a big no-no often committed by females) or even unhappy, quickie marriages that last more that 6 months. We've all heard the saying that "Patience is a virtue" and it's obvious that people should take heed to this more often. So, take one day at a time to really explore the relationship that may(or may not) be developing with someone special.